I was exchanging emails with someone today and got me thinking about life and choices we have to make. Some decisions are really hard, tough. Eg a parent has to decide whether its worth the surgeons operating on thier child to give it a chance of life even though they have said the chances of success are zero. And Allah knows best. Every step in to the future is a step in to the unseen. No one really knows how things will work out, good or bad. But we do have the comfort of knowing that if we make choices in life following basic guidelines, Eg making consultation, checking what the shariah says about certain things. For example there is no decision or consultation when it comes to deciding upon a sinful activity. The choice is clear Don’t do it. Eg Zina.. Allah says ” La takrabuz zina” or lying, stealing etc.
But there are certain choices in life where we have to chose between to lawful alternaives. Eg a person going on a journey to Hajj he can’t decide who to travel with or how to travel. Thier he can make istikharah, consult and then make a choice. But once a choice is made, be firm and trust in Allah. if we follow these simple guidelines inshallah, Allah will be on our side and his help. Allah/ God wouldn’t be God if he failed to answer the call of his distressed slaves.
Everything in life can come right if we keep God on our side.
Then once you have taken the decision, put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)
Remember Allah is always one step ahead of us. He knew all that which occurred, what will occur and all that which did not occur:
Verily, Allah is All-Knower of everything [(8): 75]
And Indeed, nothing escapes His Knowledge: And that Allah surrounds (comprehends) all things in His Knowledge [(65): 12]
And With Him are the keys of Ghaib (all that is hidden) none knows them but He. And He knows whatever there is on the earth and in the sea; not a leaf falls, but He knows it. There is not a grain in the darkness of the earth nor anything fresh or dry, but is written in a Clear Record. [(6): 59]
So some people might say i followed these guidelines but things went wrong afterwards. Why did they go worong when God knew it was going to go wrong? Simple answer is it was more better for you that things went wrong than if they had come seemingly right.
Allah Knows and we don’t know.
And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not. [Soorah Baqarah (2): 216]
One of the manifestations of this great fact is the treaty of Hudaybiyah. The year of Hudaybiyah, when the pagan Arabs of Quraish tribe prevented the Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) and his Companions (radhi allahu anhu) from entering Makkah to perform Umrah. Instead of the severe conditions imposed by the Mushriks and great dislike of the treaty by his Companions, Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) accepted them, being confident that Allah would not abandon him and that He will grant him victory. Allah knew that the treaty of al-Hudaybiyah was the beginning of victory. On the way back to Madinah Allah revealed the verse:
Verily! We have given you (O Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam)), Fathan Mubeen, a manifest victory. (48): 1]
And indeed, due to the treaty, many good things regarding the manifestation of Deen and retreat of Kuffr took place. People came nearer and entered discussions with each other, Muslims could speak about Islam with proofs and evidences. There came in the fold of Islam as many people as the people who entered before. And regarding this treaty Allah says in His Book:
He knew what you knew not, and He granted besides that a near Fathan (victory). [(48): 27]
We do not choose to be born. We do not choose our parents. We do not choose our historica epoch, the country of our bith or the immediate circumstances of our upbringing. We do not, most of us, choose to die; nor do we choose the time or conditions of our death. But within all this realm of choicelessness, we do choose how we shall live: courageously or in cowardice, honorably or dishonorably, with purpose or in drift. We decide what is important and what is trivial in life. We decide that what makes us significant is either what we do or what we refuse to do. But no matter how indifferent the universe may be to our choices and decisions, these choices and decisions are ours to make. We decide. And as we decide and choose, so are our lives formed. In the end, forming our own destiny is what ambition is about.
— Joseph Epstein