I had a sis talk to me on MSN.. yesterday, havent talked to her in a long time. She lives locally. Thinks of me as an older Bro / uncle.
Anyways she was telling me she’d met someone and wanted to marry him. After asking her some inquisitive answers realised she had met him on the net and thereafter they had met personally in public “gone for coffee” a few times. Shes Indian He’s Bengali. She told her mum about him who said don’t mind you having him as yr friend but not a husband. Hasn’t mentioned to dad yet..probably scared of his reaction. Anyways she told me and asked me for some advice… What i told her might have been a bit strong but I said basically:
cut contact with him, stop communications as anything that could lead to Zina is inclued as Zina. At the moment your in love infatuated but some of this is due to the distance between you and due to longing for each other. If you were to marry all the romance would finish and the reality would set in.
However I didn’t say don’t marry him I told her stop communicating then Make dua istikharah consult and whatever is best for you will happen inshallah. If your meant for each other Allah will make it easy and if you aren’t Allah will make it hard. But the key is taqwa, dua and trust in Allah.
I might be wrong in this advice .. but this is what came to my heart..